I fall into the latter category. When I lost both of my parents in 2010, I started to really dread the holidays. I had zero spirit and it wasn't a happy time for me at all. But as a mother myself, I didn't want to let my sadness take away from my son's chance to make memories with his own family, us. So that first year without my parents, my husband and I made a compromise, we packed our bags, called the inlaws and all five of us headed to Santa Fe, New Mexico for my first Christmas away from home. And it was magical.
We turned what could have been the worst Christmas of my life into one of the best experiences I ever had. And all I did was follow my heart. Christmas in Santa Fe had always been on my bucket list -- ever since a friend told me about the beautiful Pueblos decorated with candles (Farolitos) and how the people gathered in the streets singing. It was a Christmas I will never forget. And not because it was my first holiday without my parents, but for the wonderful memories our new family made.
So, my message to you this holiday season is to follow your heart. Why not make new memories if you are feeling sad and lonely. Life is about change, and we will all eventually lose people dear to our hearts. But instead of sitting home alone and feeling blue, think about what makes you feel good and create a new tradition. We will be home this year for Christmas day, but packing up the kid and dog the morning after and heading down south to a beachfront property. A peaceful place where we will play and relax after the holiday rush. You see, my new tradition is to go away and make new adventures. What about you? What will you do to ditch the holiday blues?